Two people rarely see eye to eye all of the time – even if they have promised to love, honor and cherish. Building a strong relationship requires work, dedication and the ability to manage conflicts. If you find yourself at odds with your spouse or SO, try these tips:
Look directly at your spouse to let her know you are listening.
Avoid rehashing past hurts – stay focused on the present issue.
Eliminate distractions. Turn off the TV, silencing your phone, etc.
Discuss hurtful behavior based on how you feel rather than as a reflection of your spouse’s character. Use “The Golden Rule”: Treat the other person as you wish to be treated.
Allow your spouse to explain her/his position or feelings without interrupting.
Share happy memories to help the two of you reconnect.
Take time to do things you enjoy together.
Don’t involve your kids in your conflicts.
Stop thinking of “you” or “me” and consider what is best for the two of you as a couple.
Let your spouse win sometimes -- is getting your way really more important than keeping your relationship?
Seek the help of a professional counselor if you find yourself having more conflicts or are having trouble resolving them on your own.